Descrizione
“I don’t live without you” is a phrase often understood as the sign of an intense bond, a saying used to represent a romantic story. In too many cases it is instead the expression of a real addiction, of a sick relationship that makes many people unhappy, more often women. Affective dependence is a still little known disorder, from which it is difficult to get rid of it because it has deep roots in the heart of the family of origin, where we experience the first forms of attachment and learn, when all goes well, love for ourselves. But if, on the other hand, we have been little cared for, neglected, or even abused children, or on the contrary children who are too protected, object of excessive attention, then we can develop relationships in which the partner is experienced as a lifeline, someone who can mend old tears. In this book Ameya Gabriella Canovi shares her long experience of supporting emotional employees by telling their stories and explaining the discomfort they are prisoners of, with its various manifestations: begging for affection or demanding it, manipulating or seducing the loved one, reproducing poisonous sentimental situations, suffering the frustration of a desire for fusion that is never satisfied. With an approach as rigorous as it is full of empathy, she also outlines a path of self-knowledge capable of defusing “too much love”, the excessive need for the other, and the intrusiveness of regrets and recriminations for what one is not. had. Exploring one’s past to its roots is the first step to be able to heal the improper or badly received love that exists.
